Do they work?

Do long distance relationships work?  Yes, they do…well at least I think they do.  Many long distance relationships work as well or as poorly as any other relationship.  The assumption that they don’t can sabotage the relationship before it even has a chance to start.  The key ingredient when deciding to enter into a long distance relationship is to be optimistic.  Distance shouldn’t be an obstacle if you really love and want to be with someone.  If you want it to work and are willing to put everything you have into making it work, the outcome can and will be everything you thought it would be.  There are many advantages and disadvantages that go into making a long distance relationship work and following them can be challenging, but if you do, in the end you can have the relationship you desire.


For some, distance can help to slowly have a relationship without the consistant pressure of the other partner.  The romance stays kindled because you aren't around the person 24/7 and there aren't routines that get repetitive.  For disadvantages, it is very frustrating there is no intimacy, no hugging or kissing.  The experiences in a normal relationship are missing and it makes it harder to connect.


In the long run it makes seeing each other so much more intense and amazing than it would be if you were in a "normal" relationship.  My life motto has always been "quality over quantity."

The reason I wanted to start a blog about long distance relationships, was to share my experience and everything I have learned with people who are entering one or are in one already.  I have been in my long distance relationship for about a year now and because were both at different colleges in opposite sides on the U.S. (Lincoln, NE and Lowell, MA) we've had our ups and downs.  In the following blogs, I will share with you some good and bad points to being in a long distance relationship.  In my opinion it all depends upon the people in the relationship.  Hopefully you will see what kind of person you are after reading these blogs.

Tip:  Make sure you are both on the same path.  If you are going to jump into a long distance relationship sit down with your partner and figure out what kind of relationship you are going to be in:  serious, monogamous, open, etc.  You must choose what level of commitment you are both on.  In my case we are both serious, however, I have a friend who has been dating her boyfriend for five years and when they went to college they decided they would make their relationship an open one.  That meant that each person could go on dates and meet other people just no "hooking up" or "spending the night."